Any attempts at writing today have been thwarted by the growing, raging fire in the pit of my stomach.
I’ve prayed to invoke my muse several times this morning to no avail. Then I realized that she’s there, she’s working with me, its just that she’s as pissed as I am. Spitting, ranting, pissed off.
I wish I could be more eloquent right now. So often during these trying times of an election year as muck and shit flies around, I’ve maintained composure. It requires slowing my mind down, practicing all the skills I have to combat the ignorance that surrounds issues of gay marriage, hate crimes, poverty, health care and specifically today, women’s health.
Only once during this post will I mention the name of the ASS/IDIOT/BASTARD who attempted to coin a phrase, “legitimate” rape. Rep. Todd Akin of MO, my neighboring state, attempted to re-define the word rape, splintering its definition to fit his own personal agenda and actually insinuate that a women’s body can discriminate against the sperm of an attacker versus the sperm of a lover (or in his case, he would mandate that it be the sperm of a man, preferably white, in a traditional Christian man-woman marriage). With zero regard to the population of women rape survivors, their husbands, partners, children and families who try to love and support them back into being whole people again, he managed to re-traumatize the already traumatized.
This is all the credence I will pay him in this post because I’m not interested in giving him any more power or attention. I now switch over to the people I care about.
I am interested ,however, in saying to all the women who are rape, incest and sexual abuse survivors, PLEASE, PLEASE don’t listen to him. Don’t hear his shiftless blame and put it on yourselves, further traumatizing yourselves for a situation that was put upon you with violence and a mis-use of power. It was never your fault, you didn’t do anything wrong, I didn’t do anything wrong. I have no explanation as to why these violences continue to occur against women, men and children but I do know we aren’t to blame. In terms of our biology, we can’t prevent an egg being fertilized as a result of a rape. We just can’t. And this man is an uninformed idiot to have made this statement.
“When you, Paul Ryan and 225 of your fellow co-sponsors play with words around rape suggesting only “forcible” rape be treated seriously as if all rapes weren’t forcible, it brings back a flood of memories of the way the rapists played with us in the act of being raped — intimidating us, threatening us,muting us. Your playing with words like “forcible” and “legitimate” is playing with our souls which have been shattered by unwanted penises shoving into us, ripping our flesh, our vaginas, our consciousness, our confidence, our pride, our futures.
Now you want to say that you misspoke when you said that a legitimate rape couldn’t get us pregnant. Did you honestly believe that rape sperm is different than love sperm, that some mysterious religious process occurs and rape sperm self-destructs due to its evilcontent? Or, were you implying that women and their bodies are somehow responsible for rejecting legitimate rape sperm, once again putting the onus on us? It would seem you were saying that getting pregnant after a rape would indicate it was not a “legitimate” rape.”
To the survivors: PLEASE, continue to love yourselves, forgive yourselves and keep on with your healing. Don’t let a person with so little understanding and sensitivity undermine any chance you have for happiness and peace. Don’t accept this War on Women. Power has already been misused on us, we are about recovery.
To Mr. Todd Akin: I pray that your sisters, daughters, wife never have the experience of sexual assault. They would be sorely in need of support that you obviously can’t provide. You are an extremely disappointing and small man.
To the voters of Missouri and anyone who knows a MO voter: PLEASE support Claire McCaskill in her re-election as US Senator. She’s a friend to women and she gets it.
Whew….that felt good. I needed to say those words. Now on to other writing topics but delighted to know that my “muse” is an activist too.
- American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists: Statement on Rape and Pregnancy (ken_ashford.typepad.com)
- GOP candidate Todd Akin says rape has to be legitimate in order to get pregnant. (ireport.cnn.com)