Recently my life has been a world salad.
My family and I have recently been throwing around letters of treatment modalities combined with prospective and already assigned diagnosis. In an effort to be an well informed consumer as well as keeping our minds and hearts open to whatever ensures that our family and I are getting the most help, we’ve tried many therapies. Some more interesting and helpful than others, we’ve journeyed down the road full of letters and abbreviations designed to add brevity to a complex and confusing situation.
These recent conversations in our home were very timely accented by a thread on Facebook where Terri, owner at Bone Sigh Arts, asked her audience what therapies helped the women survivors….I feel compelled as always, to help my fellow woman survivor and this is a partial list from that thread with some of my own thrown in…
- EFT ~ Emotional Freedom Technique ~ Gary Craig
- NAET ~ Nambudripad Allergy Elimination Technique ~ created by Dr. Devi Nambudripad
- DBT ~ Dialectic Behavior Therapy ~ created by Marsha Linehan
- Energy Medicine ~ created by Donna Eden
- Herbal remedies for physical and emotional conditions
- EMDR ~ Eye Movement Desensitivation Response
- IB ~ Inner Bonding ~ created by Margaret Paul
- Cranial-Sacral Therapy ~ John Upledger
Homeopathy, acupuncture, massage therapy and the list goes on of top notch healing modalities….
Now here are some of the letters attached to me….SA (sexual abuse) survivor, PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), DID (disassociative identity disorder) , CFIDS (chronic fatigue and immune dysfunction syndrome), LD (Lyme disease), EBV (Epstein-Barr) and the recently suggested but not confirmed BPD (borderline personality disorder).
I prefer to think that these letters will set me free instead of inducing more confusion although the process of maneuvering through them can be confusing. I am putting this post mostly for reference, there aren’t any conclusions here. I have found that the technique is as almost as good as the practitioner. For example, my NAET practitioner is excellent. She is kind, intuitive and skilled out the whazoo. The woman who did EMDR for me was just okay and I didn’t pursue working with her. One has to follow their instincts strongly here and find a practitioner that you can trust implicitly when doing this type of work.
Next week, I begin working with a woman (who was a fabulous fit by the way) who will be teaching me DBT. It’s high success rate makes it not only a perfect technique for those with BPD but for many less labeled individuals. We begin our work even without the controversial label of BPD which actually is one reason I agreed to see her. She isn’t interested in the diagnosis just the outcome. That sealed the deal for me.
Just to cover all the bases and to shut some people in my life up, I saw my MD/psychiatrist who yawned and scratched his face when I told him of my plans to start DBT and did he think I had BPD. He didn’t really answer me but asked me if I had a firm, concrete plan for my suicide to which I replied no. He handed me some anti-depressant samples and told me to come back in a month. My answers hadn’t compelled him to jump to any conclusions nor hospitalize me. I can’t say that I was disappointed by his lack of conclusion because it was pretty much the way I saw it too. His apathy may have done me a favor.
That doesn’t mean I don’t know that things are amiss with me sometimes. One can’t go through this type of trauma and not come out with swiss cheese for a brain on occasion. My family and I have been through times of hell that forced growth and compassion on us whether we liked it or not. DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) has as one of its cornerstones the concept of radical acceptance which I immediately latched on to. It feels really kind to learn to accept myself for exactly as I am and because of what I have been through. What a beautiful thought to understand the strengths and limitations brought to me by this situation, accept it and go on to be the best person I can be. And of course, my hope that my family and friends also learn the concept of radical acceptance but its not required for my success.
And by the way, this work takes time. One of the mantras that I hear over and over from sensitive practitioners and support people is that it took a lifetime for us to get this way so be patient with the recovery. Its so true for me that being gentle with myself has been one of the most important approaches to these life changing therapies that I would place very near the top. That and a good dog.
This post touches on many, many topics. Digest them slowly, stay informed and be gentle with yourself. Otherwise you may find yourself drowning in word salad.